Heartbreak

She said "I want us to stay friends."

I said "I don't want us to stop talking to each other."

She said "No, no, we won't."

I said "But I don't talk to Darius or Steven or anyone I've been with anymore.  I mean, Steven and I were never really.. but.. I don't want that to happen to us."

She said promised "It won't."

She said lied "I really want us to stay friends."

A month went by.

I said "I miss you."

She said "Me too."

I said "So how's life been?"

She never answered.

And for some reason, that hurt so much more than breaking up did.  I believed her.  I really, honestly believed her when she said she wanted to stay friends... but I guess it was just a lie.  I thought we could make friends work, but a friendship doesn't work when only one of the two actually wants to make it work and actually puts in an effort to try to make friendship work.  I thought that since we were friends before we started dating, that we would be friends after we broke up.  Especially since it wasn't a bad break up.

Here's a tip.  If someone says they want to say friends, don't believe them.  Because they're a liar.  And if you put in the effort to try to make "just friends" work, you're going to be the one to get hurt in the end.

You know what I'm done with?  Believing in love.  Because fairy-tales lie and love only gets you hurt in the end.  I'm putting walls up and I'm going to try hard as hell to not ever fall in love again.  Love leads to hurt.  That's the one thing in life I'm one hundred percent sure of.

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